Creating a Bucket List
Definition of Bucket List – things you want to accomplish before you “kick the bucket.”
In 2007 Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman played in the Movie entitled “Bucket List.” The movie depicted two terminally ill men who escape from a cancer ward and head off on a road trip with a wish list of to-dos before they die. Since the release of this movie I have thought the idea is fabulous and seemingly simple…..just make a list of everything I want to do. So then I wonder….. Why has my list been empty for years? It is not that I have not tried. There has been something that has stopped me from committing to things I want. Is it my work? Busyness? Family commitments? Am I boring? Do I not have an adventurous spirit? Nope – it’s none of those. So what is it???
It’s my lack of commitment to me and my feelings and my wants and needs. All too often we put our lives into our motherly/womanly commitments and not into ourselves. Why don’t we as mothers, nurturers, givers do things for ourselves? This has definitely been a challenge for me. I give to others at work and home. Don’t get me wrong, I feel very privileged to have both of these beautiful opportunities in my life, but I often don’t look into the future because I am, too busy dealing with today.
For a long time I felt like this was ok. It was ok because today’s challenges were my focus and I am doing very well taking on the challenges. But then……. I tried to make a bucket list and I stared at a blank page which seemed like forever and…….. nothing. I kept coming back to practical, economical, and responsible and the same question…..what about the kids?