The Adventure of Couple-hood
The Adventure of Couple-hood (The impact of Family Life Cycle on the Couple Relationship)
by: Eric Bailey, MMFT, Counsellor and Supervisor
A large part of my work is counselling couples. Often when I meet with a couple for the first time, they are in the midst of crisis. There is the question of “Can we make it?” or “Is there any hope for our relationship?” While the immediate problem is important and a crisis needs to be addressed, most couples need to remember the bigger picture. Couple relationships, like a tree, grow and develop over time. Couples are impacted by certain common factors that are experienced at various points in their development. These common factors have been consolidated into what is called the Family Life Cycle.
The development of the couple relationshipis a long process, a lifelong adventure shared with a partner. The Family Life Cycle has six basic stages. The following chart is a nice way to show the movement from stage to stage (and is easy to find in an internet search).